"The thing you have to remember about them is that they start one level ahead. They never have to suffer like we do."
A story she tells often is her attempt to baptize her infant daughter who was born with a fatal condition. The baby was a few months old with only a short time left to live and priests refused to perform the rite due to the assumption that she was not married to her husband. They thought her his “prostitute,” she says. My boss immigrated to the US from Hong Kong in the eighties. Her husband is white.